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Principles

Spiritual Principles To Live By

AGREEMENT
Act of agreeing or of coming to a mutual assent
State of being in accord
Arrangement that is accepted by all parties to a transaction
Contract or other document delineating responsibilities and expectations
Harmony in feeling
Expression of assent by two or more parties to the same object, topic or activity
Written or oral, exchange of promises

Essential Characteristics:

  1. An opportunity to practice integrity, honesty and honor.
  2. Statement of desires and needs that is shared with others.
  3. An act of faith in self and others.
  4. When honored, an agreement is a vote for one's own worth and value.
  5. The basis of a coaching relationship

Commentary:
Everything we do is based on agreements we have made - agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. Some of these agreements are conscious, others are not. The most important agreements we make are the ones we make with ourselves. In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible. Every agreement we make is a function of our consciousness. As such, many agreements are fueled by shame, guilt and fear. Honoring, navigating and negotiating these agreements deplete our energy and will ultimately diminish our self-worth. It is for this reason that The Four Agreements, offered by Don Miguel Ruiz in his book of the same title, provide effective and honorable boundaries for all agreements, those we make with ourselves and others.

Agreement 1: Be impeccable with your word - Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Agreement 2: Don’t take anything personally - Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Agreement 3: Don’t make assumptions - Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Agreement 4: Always do your best - Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

ALIGNMENT
Adjustment or a arrangement into a straight line
Proper adjustment of the components for coordinated functioning
State of agreement or cooperation with a common cause or viewpoint
Process of adjusting parts so that they are in proper relative position
An arrangement or alliance of elements or groups

Essential Characteristics:

  1. State of mental and emotional balance.
  2. Internal sense of well being.
  3. Opportunity to support personal and spiritual truth.
  4. Opportunity to practice mental and emotional accountability.

Commentary:
Emotions are at the foundation of mental and emotional alignment. While emotions are neither good nor bad our ability to create and sustain internal and external alignment hinges on how and what we invest in our emotions. Emotions range from fearful to loving. The more consciously we live, the more aware we become and the more responsible we are for aligning ourselves with loving emotions. When we realize and experience the benefits of living consciously in alignment, we feel more alive and in tune with ourselves and everyone else. Fearful emotions cause us to judge, blame, attack, worry, become anxious and feel separated from others and create more fear within ourselves. The impact of fear on consciousness creates misalignment.

Alignment is a critical element in creating and harnessing a high vibrational frequency. Because the frequency of the conscious attracts and supports our deepest desires, a masterful and effective coach makes the client’s internal and external alignment a high priority in the coaching process. With the appropriate application and sharing of spiritual principles, the coach supports the client in clearing and healing those things present in consciousness that can and do create mental and emotional misalignment. The following principles are those that will, when embraced and practiced, support the establishment and maintenance of alignment.

1.Trust
Yourself and the process of life.

2.Truth
Tell it to yourself and everyone else at all times about all things.

3. Responsibility
Accept it for everything that goes on in your mind and life.

4. Accountability
Stand up for what you believe in and what you do.

5. Courage
Never allow fear to hold you back.

6. Vision
See yourself having experiencing and expressing your desires.

7. Completion
Finish everything you start or let it go from your heart and mind.

8. Love
Give it to everyone and be open to receive it from everywhere.

9. Forgiveness
Hold no grudge; remember no ills; surrender every disappointment.

10. Acceptance
Learn from your mistakes rather than beating yourself up because of them

AUTHORITY
Legal or rightful power
Power or right delegated or given
Persuasive force; conviction
Mastery in execution or performance
Right to respect or acceptance of one’s word, command or thought
Commanding influence

Essential Characteristics:

  1. Assuming responsibility for one’s own actions and experiences.
  2. Demonstration of willingness to be held accountable for one’s own actions.
  3. Demonstration of a belief in one’s own power to influence thought and behavior.
  4. Acceptance of the right to be in command of one’s behavior.
  5. A sense of inner knowledge and command.
  6. The ability to stand up for one’s self within one’s self.
  7. A demonstration of self-support
  8. A demonstration and acceptance of the creative energy that exists within consciousness.
  9. Provides the boundaries for what one is willing to be held accountable.
  10. A statement or demonstration of expertise.

Commentary:
At the root of the word authority is, “author,” one who originates or creates. One who brings forth into life thought as written or spoken word. Inventor. First to use or give meaning. In the spiritual realm, Mind is the author of all things. Mind is the author or starting point of every act, thought or feeling. At the level of human or physical existence, Mind is all that Mind is, endowed with its powers and qualities. Mind, as author is a noun. Mind as authority is a verb meaning, the activity and action of the author is authority.

God is the only "authority” of life. God gives life through Spirit. This makes God the authority of life. This gives God control of the life process. God as the supreme intelligence of life has created the “laws” by which all things live and die. These are the rules by which we are expected to live. To live in violation of the law, one must give account or become answerable to the creative authority. In essence, all living beings are subject to the creative, intelligent authority of the laws of life. This makes God the commander and chief of the process of life.

BOUNDARIES
A frontier
Bounds or limits of behavior or movement
The collection of all points of a given set in place to maintain the integrity of the set
Built or constructed to support and maintain place held
Complex system considered from the point of view of the whole rather than of any single part
Relationship and organization of the component parts of a working organism or structure

Essential Characteristics:

  1. Prescribed and defined expectations and limits of behavior, language, purpose and action.
  2. Established to facilitate and preserve experiential and actual safety.
  3. Agreeable parameters which govern events, behaviors and outcomes.
  4. Facilitates and maintains the integrity of relationships.
  5. Supports awareness of where you end and others begin.
  6. Demonstrates honor and respect for our inner life of thoughts, feelings, needs and experience.
  7. Preserves what is meaningful to and for an individual.
  8. Supports authenticity.
  9. Discourages betrayal, self-betrayal and self-sabotage.
  10. Provides opportunity to develop and establish self-affirmation, self-trust and self-regard.
  11. Provides opportunity to demonstrate self-respect while offering respect to others.
  12. A demonstration of self-responsibility which leads to self-actualization.

Commentary:
As a universal principle, boundaries occur and exist consistently throughout nature. The existence of boundaries is applicable whether we believe in them or are aware of their existence. From the change of the seasons to the change of time (am-pm); from the space occupied by our physical bodies (personal space) to the square footage of our homes and property; boundaries are overt and covert mechanisms which allow us to create safety, experience safety and maintain safety. Boundaries can be flexible, changing contour, allowing for shifts and growth in self and relationships. Boundaries can also be inflexible and rigid, maintaining one contour, controlling and unable to accommodate growth or change in self or relationships.

CHOICE
The act or instance of selecting
The right, power or opportunity to select
Option, an alternative
Something that is preferable or preferred to others
The best part of something
A carefully selected supply

Essential Characteristics:

  1. The essential ingredient of reality creation.
  2. The cornerstone of all success.
  3. The manifestation of active and passive beliefs.
  4. The override or default switch of all habits, programming, conditioning, judgments, limitations and beliefs.

Commentary:
The only wrong choice is no choice. Every experience we face in life is a function of choice; choices made and choices resisted. Until there is conscious choice, one will live in default as a victim of circumstances, accepting whatever comes along. With conscious choice, one is empowered. Choice is, in fact, an empowered yes or an empowered no. By choice we say yes to those things we do want and no to those things we do not. Choice is directly linked to and produces the manifestation of beliefs. Whatever is held in consciousness, whatever one believes about self, life and the world at large will influence or dictate choice. However, by making a new, conscious choice, one can override beliefs which have been long held producing negative or undesirable experiences. Conscious choice determines the power of an individual to create their reality and to manage their experiences.

In order for conscious choice to be made there must be three (3) elements present:

  1. Understanding of the options available.
  2. An intention and/or vision for the desired outcome.
  3. Commit to act in alignment with the choice made.

COMMITMENT:
Pledge, promise, or desired obligation which can be relied upon
Involvement at both the inner and outer levels of an experience
Activity consistent with a stated intention or desired goal
A written order or directive that determines action and/or activity
Inner and outer cooperation in support of making consistent movement toward an intended outcome
Consistent inward and outer activity designed to fulfill an intention or desire

Essential Characteristics:

  1. A statement of personal responsibility and accountability.
  2. Facilitates alignment of the four levels of energy/being with choice and action.
  3. Facilitates and supports energy/presence with intention, vision, choice and action.
  4. Supports and maintains inner and outer integrity.
  5. Facilitates and supports maintenance of inner and outer boundaries.
  6. Facilitates and supports risk taking.
  7. Supports action being taken beyond the scope of limited interpretations.
  8. Provides opportunities and facilitates finding creative solutions to mundane experiences.
  9. Provides an opportunity for authentic self-expression and empowerment.

Commentary:
A commitment is a choice. There is always a choice which must be made that determines the degree to which one honors or dishonors commitments made with self and others. Making and keeping commitments teaches us that we can be trusted and counted on. In this way, commitment builds self-trust and self-esteem, which are the cornerstones and building blocks of self-love and self-acceptance. Commitment also supports the development of inward and outward congruency and alignment. It invites the development of honesty and honest self-assessment, which enhances an inward respect of self and demonstrates respect for others.

ONENESS
Quality of being one
Singleness
Uniqueness
Unity of thought, feeling, belief, aim, etc.
Agreement or Accord
Strong feeling of closeness or affinity
Union

Essential Characteristics:

  1. A heartfelt experience and expression of connection.
  2. Recognition of the Divinity of life.
  3. A forward moving mental and emotional experience in the process of reality creation.
  4. Conscious recognition of the ownership of one’s experiences.
  5. Demonstration of willingness to be responsible and accountable for reality creation.

Commentary:
Oneness is a sense that we are all in this together. Children seem to naturally feel this way unless taught otherwise. Some parents teach their children that they are better than other children. Other parents berate their children as being inferior to others. Racism, for example, is a learned behavior. It is probably just as destructive to teach a child that they are 'special' - meaning better than other people. Both consciously and unconsciously parents can teach a child that they are lacking in some way. When children are taught and experience the principle of oneness early in life, they are better able to cultivate their innate sense of belonging to the human family and they develop a deeper sense of well-being and mental health.

WHOLENESS
Comprising the full quantity, amount, extent, number, etc. , without exception
Entire, full or total
Containing all the elements properly belonging; complete
Undivided, in one piece
Not broken, damaged or impaired
Intact
Uninjured or unharmed
Sound
Assemblage of parts or elements belonging to a thing
Entire quantity, account, extent or number
Complete in itself

Essential Characteristics:

  1. A state of well-being.
  2. Physical, mental, emotional and spiritual congruency.
  3. Solid foundation for creating powerful actions.
  4. An intact sense of self and possibilities for self.
  5. Focus on strengths rather than weaknesses.

Commentary:
Seeing, knowing and experiencing yourself as whole is a major step toward moving beyond labels that hinder, obstruct or delay action steps. Wholeness is the recognition that there are many more things that you are able to do than there are things that you cannot. When a whole person falls short of a desired outcome, they recognize that it may simply be a matter of skill; they are being challenged by something they have not yet learned to do. There is a willingness to put time and effort into learning what is required in order make another attempt.

The mind-set of a person who is experiencing wholeness is:

  1. My life is a canvas. I am the artist.
  2. I create the agenda of my life.
  3. I am resourceful.
  4. I am capable of great results.
  5. I can generate my own solutions.
  6. I make powerful choices that honor who I am.
  7. I take responsibility for the results I create.
  8. I trust my intuition.
  9. I trust myself.

SATISFACTION
Contentment
Confident acceptance of something as satisfactory, dependable, true, etc
Reparation or compensation, as for a wrong or injury
Discharge, as of a debt or obligation

Fulfillment
Inner sense of fulfillment or gratification
Act or state of experiencing fullness
Actions that lead to or result in completion
Realization of desire

Essential Characteristics:

  1. Result of addressing personal, physical and psychological needs.
  2. Requirement for reaching personal potential.
  3. Supports the development of a healthy ego.
  4. A distinction of fulfillment.

Commentary:
Once a client’s needs have been identified, it is the coach’s concern to support the client in finding ways to have the needs satisfied. Permanent and complete satisfaction of needs requires three (3) key essentials:

  1. Establishing and maintaining clear personal boundaries.
  2. Making personal needs a priority and promoting them in every situation. (Selflessness)
  3. Establishing and advancing personal standards in every experience. (Consistent process of healing and growth)

FLEXIBILITY
Capable of being bent, usually without breaking
Adaptable
Susceptible to or for modification
Willing or disposed to yield
Pliable
Capable of bending without injury or damage
Susceptible to influence or persuasion
Responsive to change

Essential Characteristics:

  1. Signal of a healthy, well anchored personality.
  2. A demonstration of trust and surrender.
  3. The ability to stay present and experience the events of the moment.

Commentary:
In most instances, the human personality experiences change as difficult. Why? Some of the most common answers are:

  1. We don't want to change;
  2. We do not believe we are ready to change;
  3. We don't know what to do to change;
  4. We know what to do, but we keep making excuses for not making the changes needed. When making a change is difficult for a client, more often than not, a step is missing. That change is flexibility in both thought patterns and emotions.

We all know people who hold very rigid opinions. No amount of discussion can change their views. Such people often set themselves up for added stress by the rigid expectations and requirements they hold. Working on making our expectations more flexible can improve our mental health and overall well-being. Emotional flexibility may be just as important as cognitive flexibility. Flexible people experience a range of emotions and allow themselves to express these feelings. Inflexible people shut off certain feelings, because they find these emotions unacceptable. Emotional rigidity may result in problems in relationships and health.

VISION
Act or power of seeing with eyes
Sight, the ability to see
Act or power of anticipating that which will or may come to be
Experience in which a person, thing or event appears vividly or credibly to the mind, although not actually present
Something seen or otherwise perceived

SIGHT
Perception of object by use of eyes
Act, fact or instance of seeing
One’s range of vision on some specific occasion
Mental perception or regard
Judgment
Something Seen or worth seeing

Essential Characteristics:

  1. Mental picturing of a positive desire.
  2. Foundation for the development of a healthy sense of value, worth and intentionality.
  3. Promotes consistent and productive action.
  4. Alchemical agent for transforming behavior and life experience.
  5. Foundation and beginning of reality creation.

Commentary:
“Vision is the first step toward building the future we desire, the life through which we can experience fulfillment and a sense of accomplishment.” (Soul Mission Life Vision: Pg. 127)
Vision gives us hope, direction and a path to follow. In times of crisis, it is vision of another possibility that helps us through. In everyday living, it is vision that keeps us on track, engaged in the creation of a positive, purposeful and rewarding life. We constantly create visions without realizing it when we think in pictures and project those pictures into our world. What we think and project is what manifests. The bigger the vision the more pieces that are to fall into place for full manifestation.

RESPONSIBILITY
Willingness to experience Self as the cause of experience and matter which begins in consciousness (the mind)
Internal and external response to experience based on acquired ability
Having the ability to respond
Willingness to accept consequences/effects which are related to Self as Cause
Charged with being the source of the occasion of something or some occurrence
Reliable or dependable
Answerable or accountable for something within one’s power
Able to discharge (conduct or perform) obligations
To author, cause or occasion an event or experience

Essential Characteristics:

  1. Proactive, conscious involvement at all levels of being.
  2. An opportunity to develop and demonstrate courage, self-trust and self-respect.
  3. Identification of Self as the Cause of experiences.
  4. Opportunity to activate positive expectations related to intentions.
  5. Demonstration of and opportunity for personal and spiritual growth and development.
  6. Personal alignment with the Law of Cause and Effect.
  7. Demonstration of self-discipline.
  8. Process for eliminating excuses and habits for inaction.

FOUR LEVELS OF RESPONSIBILITY
1. “I Am Not Responsible” - for anything that has happened/is happening to me.
This is the experience of life happening to you rather than through you. It is a reaction rather than a response, generated by the experience/belief that one does not have control or choice resting on the core belief of victimization.

2. I Take/Accept Responsibility” - in this particular moment.
This level of responsibility is a form of resistance and is reliant on past experiences, events and people where no conscious choice was made. It is another way of saying, “I feel guilty;” “I feel ashamed;” “I did something wrong;” “I feel bad;” “Nobody else wants to step up so I will.” At this level there is no ownership or presence to what is going on in the present moment. It is a means of escape based on past experiences of being shamed or made to feel wrong.

3. “I AM Responsible” - in the moment.
At this level of consciousness, there is a possibility for success. It is a reflection of ownership, presence and willingness to address the six (6) levels of awareness. It is a statement of willingness to contribute and influence the direction of the present situation. At this level there can be an experience of power and authority for creating the desired experience.

4. “I AM Responsible For Everything” - as a matter of choice.
At this level of consciousness there is a power-filled posture to create and transform every experience into Reality Creation. This is a conscious, proactive involvement at all levels of being (mental, physical, emotional and spiritual) for which there is a willingness and readiness to interact, participate and contribute for the good of all involved. This is the level of whole-hearted commitment.

TRANSFORMATION
Transform
Change in form, appearance or structure
Change in condition, nature or character
Convert
Change into another substance
Transmute
Increase or decrease the voltage and current characteristics
Change the form of without, in general, changing the value
Change into another form of energy
Undergo a change in form, appearance or character; become transformed

Essential Characteristics:

  1. Process that results in deep, lasting and sustainable change on all levels of being.
  2. Opportunity to experience self and be experience in the present moment.
  3. Process and opportunity to override past programming.
  4. Opportunity to bring hidden beliefs and weaknesses to the surface of consciousness.
  5. Source of resistance.

Commentary:
Profound inner peace does not come from fixing yourself. It is the result of making lasting changes at the core of the being. It is the result of discovering that you are already whole. It is the realization of the true self. Being human means so much more than you have ever imagined. It is a divine and wonderful experience to realize that you already have everything you need inside. It is a relief to discover that you are not flawed. This truth, when discovered, becomes a powerful flame that consumes all that is not real. What remains is inner stillness, the wellspring of joy. This process of discovery is one of the many outgrowths of personal transformation.